Healing Your Inner Child from Negative Labels

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by Jenny Collins, Holistic Health Graduate Student, Online Outreach Specialist at Live Your Truth

I don’t have children. But in a way, I’ve recently become a parent.

To myself.

Regardless of how we were raised, every one of us still has an inner child who longs to be loved, understood and supported (i.e. parented) true to our nature.

What did you hear as a child?
Go back to a time when you were young. Did you hear any of these labels as a child? Shy. Bossy. Rambunctious. Perfectionist. Hyper. Too sensitive. Slow. Whiny. Can’t sit still. Too serious. Rebellious. Strong-willed. 

Or maybe a parent or teacher frequently said one of these to you: Calm down! Hurry up! Stop worrying! Settle down! Lighten up! You’re not the parent! Stop moving! Shhhh!

These negative labels and messages typically manifest from a misunderstanding of a child’s true nature or their unique energy blueprint. Since most adults have never had the resources or tools to recognize, it’s easy to see why these labels become so common.

And unfortunately, when you were a child, you might’ve accepted these labels, seeing a part of you as a weakness, rather than a clue to your greatest strengths and source of potential.

How negative childhood labels create wounded adults
When children are parented in such a way that runs contrary to their true nature or when who we are is suppressed rather than supported, our inner child becomes wounded.

As a result, we can grow up believing:

  • It’s not OK to be me.
  • I have to change who I am to be accepted and loved. 
  • It’s not safe to be me.

Can you see how those internal messages put you at odds with yourself and others? And how, over time, they can create pain, dis-ease or anxiety?

Healing your inner child by understanding your true nature
I’ve always been a personality profile junkie. I think I’ve taken almost every assessment tool out there, to better understand why I am the way I am (and partly an effort to convince myself it was OK to be me).

While each tool provided another layer of insight, none of them came close to the understanding—and inner healing—I’ve received from Energy Profiling. Developed by energy therapist Carol Tuttle, Energy Profiling is based on the knowledge that every person (and child) moves through life with a unique energy blueprint. Your Energy Profile, or Type, influences your gifts and talents, thoughts and feelings, and even your physical characteristics and body language.

Carol Tuttle’s Amazon bestseller, The Child Whisperer, is a practical approach to intuitive parenting that teaches you how to recognize and support the unique energy of the 4 Types of children (see descriptions online):

  • Type 1 Fun-loving Child
  • Type 2 Sensitive Child
  • Type 3 Determined Child
  • Type 4 More Serious Child

Each Type of child connects with the world in a different way. When their true nature is supported, children can grow into thriving, confident adults.

And best news is we can all become our own Child Whisperer—for ourselves, and for the children in our lives.

Once you know your true Type, you can begin to live true to your nature. As you accept and love—and parent—your own nature, you come into alignment with who you truly were designed to be. And your inner child can start to live in that freedom.

Learn more at The Child Whisperer and connect on Facebook.

 

Jenny Collins is a Type 3 woman determined to help people navigate a path to true health and healing. An M.A. candidate ‘14 in the Holistic Health Studies program at St. Catherine University, she is a writer and marketing/communications specialist in St. Paul. She originally connected with Carol Tuttle through Dressing Your Truth and Energy Profiling and is now on staff with Live Your Truth

10 Tips for Postpartum Wellness

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by Nichi Hirsche Kuechle, My Healthy Beginning

The first two weeks after giving birth is a time for a mother’s body to heal and recover, so it’s important to rest. If you’re in postpartum or expecting these 10 tips will help you recover and restore naturally. And, of course, if you know of someone who’s a new mom or about to become one, please share!

10 Tips for Postpartum Wellness:

  1. Stay tucked in for 2 weeks. (Yes, YOU, in bed, with your baby-getting to know his cues for hunger, comfort, fear, cold and to slowly transition into this world. For you, it’s all about healing, recovery and sleep.
  2. Take 2-3 quick sitz baths per day to heal the perineum and any tears or stitches you may have. Even without any tearing, a quick sitz bath can feel soothing to the newly postpartum bum. You could slowly stand after this bath for a quick shower rinse to freshen up.
  3. Don’t leave your house for 3 weeks. You will NEVER get this time back, and it is beyond precious. Sometimes we don’t see that until it’s too late. Protect your energy and take care of yourself.
  4. Set up a bodywork session for you and baby. A light massage or craniosacral therapy can reset the nervous system from the hard work of birth and help to remind you to be gentle with yourself.
  5. Eat light meals throughout the day, similar to when you were pregnant. Your body needs the energy and balance that whole foods give you.
  6. Utilize your community and reach out before the baby is born or during your blessingway or baby showers to request healthy meals dropped by with or without a brief visit. This gives you good food and much time together as a family without your partner spending too much time in the kitchen.
  7. Keep your undies off. Come on, if you’re in bed, you can pull this off. At least for a couple hours during the day. If you’re still bleeding, set a chux pad underneath you (you can grab them at the drug store) and set a light cotton pad (think cloth diaper liners) against your bottom. This will “catch” the bleeding, but you’re bathing a handful of times anyway, so let your bottom get some air and heal up nicely.
  8. Breastfeed if possible. Breastfeeding is healthy for many reasons, including staving off postpartum depression and anxiety. There is nothing more convenient than breastfeeding: no bottles, no mixing, no carrying around of extra tasks. Just sit back and nurse your wee one.
  9. Return to making love when your bleeding has stopped and you feel ready.  For some of us that means weeks and for others it may mean more time than that.  There are other ways of being intimate with your partner until your body is healed.  When you do decide the time is right, take it slow.
  10. You’ll experience afterpains. After birth, your uterus has to “involute”, or return to its regular shape. This will cause after birth contractions that are sometimes painful and typically more so if this is not your first child. To ease this discomfort, you may gently massage your lower abdomen.

You can get Nichi’s New Parent Tool Kit, for free ($30 value!), by going to MyHealthyBeginning.com.

Nichi Hirsch Kuechle supports moms from pregnancy to parenthood as a Bradley Natural Childbirth Instructor, Parent Coach, Craniosacral Therapist, and Doula in Minneapolis. She publishes a weekly e-zine called Raising Healthy Babies, which offers tips and ideas to bring ease, clarity and understanding to your parenting. She also teaches a variety of live and virtual workshops. If you live in the Twin Cities metro area, Nichi offers complimentary consultations. To set-up your no-obligation 30-minute phone consultation, please email her at: nhirsch@myhealthybeginning.com

 If you live outside of the Twin Cities, she also offers support over-the-phone and via Skype. Click Here for more information on Parent Coaching. 


Connecting your kids to humanity’s greatest teacher.

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by Molly Gerrish

Today’s youth are becoming increasingly disconnected to nature and the myriad of health benefits it can offer. With our technology focused world and overscheduled calendars, children are becoming more in tune to a screen than to the world around them. On average, American children ages 2-5 spend over 32 hours or more per week watching TV, as well as using other screen time (such as game systems and computers). There have been numerous studies that keep reiterating that when children spend time in nature, it can reduce stress as well as symptoms of ADD in children as young as age 5. Some other interesting statistics to make note of:

  • Children aged 3-12 years spend 1% of their time outdoors and 27% of their time with electronic media.
  • 29% of 2 and 3 year olds have a TV in their bedroom
  • Children are 6 times more likely to play a video game than to ride a bike.
  • There is a link between lack of unstructured outdoor time and obesity, attention deficit disorder, and depression.

The way children feel about the world around them is greatly influenced by the adults in their lives. Adults who are not particularly connected to nature themselves typically do not make it a priority to spend time outside with children in unstructured activities, such as climbing, hiking/walking, exploring, or simply taking the time to observe. Nature is a crucial part of childhood and beyond and provides numerous health benefits that cannot be replicated solely by enrolling children in organized sports. True, organized sports offer children a chance to exercise, learn new skills and be social, however, there is little time for children to simply explore, make interesting observations, or try out ideas on their own when the only time they spend outside is structured or on structured playground equipment. Most injuries that occur outside actually happen on playground equipment and not on natural terrains, which can be a fear of teachers and parents alike. Helping parents and children to “unlearn fear” and instead pay attention to their surroundings is a lifelong skill that can be carried well beyond childhood.

Social/emotional and mental health is also enhanced when children spend time outdoors. Children who are exposed to nature and natural elements learn a greater sense of empathy and responsibility for other living things. Children involved in caring for a garden, or even a simple potted plant learn that it takes patience and care for things to thrive. Spending time outdoors helps children and adults experience and develop respect for the diversity of other life forms in our world and learn to take risks, hypothesize, experiment and try, try again. We want and need to inspire children to care for their world and being outside, immersed in that world is the best way for children to take ownership of the land and to become true stewards of it. It is hard to care for something we do not love. When given the opportunity, children can become competent, responsible, caring members of our global community.

Offering children an opportunity to be engaged in activities outdoors can help reduce an inactive lifestyle, get children moving more and watching screens less, making decisions and trying them out, problem solving, and learning about themselves, others, and the larger world. Children are able to move their bodies in different ways than when indoors or only on structured play equipment. Think of the different balance and coordination it takes to navigate a hill, a slippery path, or a wiggly log. Children who are challenged appropriately outdoors more often than not rise to that challenge and gain self-awareness and improved self-esteem. The many health benefits that being outside offers is just one of the reasons to get children outside, get them moving, and get them exploring!

References:

  • Bailie, P.  (2007)“List of ten reasons to connect children with nature”, Seeds of Learning Conference, River Falls, WI.
  • Cornell, J.  (1989).  Sharing nature with children II. , Dawn Publications, Nevada City, CA.
  • Green Hearts Institute for Nature in Childhood, Omaha, Nebraska www.greenhearts.org
  • Kaiser Family Foundation (2005), USA Today, July 12, 2005
  • Louv, R. (2008).  Last child in the woods.  Algonquin Books of Chapel Hill, Workman Publishing Co., New York, NY.

Molly Gerrish is an Assistant Professor of early childhood education at the University of Wisconsin-River Falls. Ms. Gerrish is currently ABD and completing her PhD in early childhood education with a focus on nature education and reflective practice in educating young children. Molly had presented on this topic at the local, regional, state, and national level and has been nationally published in the NAEYC journal Teaching Young Children.  Contact information: molly.gerrish@uwrf.edu